I left a church
I saw this tweet by Rachel Held Evans yesterday.
Leaving a church can be incredibly painful and difficult. How about we not rush to judgment about why some people make that decision?— Rachel Held Evans (@rachelheldevans) January 28, 2014
And then this one from someone in reply to her tweet.
I did some digging and realized this all started because of an article in Relevant that was making the rounds. Apparently a lot of people were put off by the article. After reading the article I didn't hate it, but I didn't love it either. It felt kind of like a pesky fly buzzing in my ear.
I believe in commitment. I had never left a church for any reason other than the fact that we would be moving out of state. I didn't like the idea of jumping from church to church. But then I joined a church that I loved...until I didn't love it...and I decided to leave. I imagine many people were surprised by our decision to leave. Even I was surprised. After all we weren't just leaving a church...we were leaving a home, a life, a dream. I thought we would live the rest of our days in that city with those people as our family. But it didn't work out that way. It wasn't right. And I can see now the plan God had for us. I still feel pain when I think about it too much. But I also feel validation because this was definitely the right move for our family. And we found a church that is right for us. A church we love and that loves us in return. Every day I feel blessed by these people. I am beyond thankful that God has lead us here...even if it meant leaving another church for reasons that some might find unsatisfactory.
What's your take on all of this? Have you ever left a church? Were you made to feel guilty because of that decision? Share in the comments.