I admit that Alex had a rough start to fatherhood, but I can’t think of many people who make the transition into parenthood without some bumps along the way. I realize now that I didn’t really give him the opportunity after Liam was born to shine in his new role. I was a stay-at-home, exclusively breastfeeding mama and no one knew my baby boy’s needs like I did. I think Alex was a little overwhelmed with our high-needs baby (I mean, he was truly a high-needs baby!) and whenever he would mess up I really came down on him hard. Hey, it was a learning process for both of us.
By the time I was very pregnant with Isabel I realized, “hey, I’m not a single mom, I don’t have to do this all on my own. Alex is willing and capable of caring for his own children. He’s not a babysitter, he’s a father.” Plus, I was just plain tired. Caring for one is easy...once you start adding more kids to the mix it can get complicated. So I started giving Alex more responsibility. At first he would constantly ask for help and I would just tell him, “you’ll figure it out,” and guess what? He did. I look at him now and I am in awe. He is truly a super dad.
Alex goes to work all day long. He comes home and he doesn’t sit on the couch to watch TV; he plays with the kids, changes diapers, feeds the baby, works on freelance projects. He does it all. During the night he takes it upon himself to care for Isabel when she wakes up and nothing will console her except being in daddy’s arms (can we say daddy’s girl?!). And do you think he complains? Never. I could not ask for a better father for my kids. They are blessed to have a man who loves them so fiercely. And I am blessed to have a partner who is truly my equal in this parenting game. When I’m not around I don’t have to worry that my kids’ care will be sub-par.
I mentioned on facebook the other day that any men who are not yet fathers need to get in contact with Alex as soon as their wife shows them that positive pregnancy test. They are going to want his mentorship in this fathering gig. He’s doing it right.
Thanks for being such an awesome dad, Alex. I know you sometimes doubt your parenting skills because you lacked a proper father figure in your life, but you are truly awesome. Our Heavenly Father has been guiding you and I think you’ve been paying attention. I love you so much and the kids do too.