4 Misconceptions About Young Stay-at-Home Moms
I'm pretty young, or at least I look young, because strangers on the street always give me the side-eye when they see me out with my kids. Sometimes they're bold and will even ask me how old I am. When I tell them that I'm 28 they kind of breathe a sigh of relief, "Oh, well you're young but not that young." When people find out that on top of being a young-ish mother I'm also a stay-at-home mom, well, they practically feel sorry for me. Even amongst my friends I've discovered that there are so many misconceptions that people have about young stay-at-home moms, here are my top four:
- I'm uneducated. For some reason it's hard for people to imagine that an educated woman would choose to stay at home over going to work. When I mention that I have a master's degree people can't even mask their surprise. "Really?! Wow! I had NO idea." Ummm, yeah. Why is that so hard to believe? I'm pretty sure I will go back to work someday, but for now I like staying home with my babies. And even if I never went back to work, my education has been put to good use.
- My pregnancies were unintentional. Alex and I wanted to get pregnant. We talked about babies for months before deciding to take the plunge. I even tracked my ovulation cycle so we could know when would be the best time to conceive. We were 25 but we felt ready and totally did this on purpose.
- I take naps every day. Ummm NO. I'm playing with my babies all day. And when they're napping I'm doing everything I can't do while they're awake: sweeping, mopping, folding laundry, cooking, writing, blogging, etc etc etc. I do NOT take naps every day or even every week. Sometimes I will sit down and watch a TV show, but that's it.
- I'm unhappy. I'll be the first to admit that I've gone through my bouts of postpartum depression and anxiety. It's been difficult to deal with but even in the lowest pits that I've experienced I have always known that I really am happy and I wouldn't choose anything else for my life right now. I love that we chose to have kids on the "early" side of life and I love that we have been able to make it work so that I can stay at home with our kids. I love this crazy season of life we're in. So you don't have to ask me if I'm bored (I'm not) or try to give me ideas for how I can go back to work (I don't need to right now). I'm good.
What kind of assumptions do people make about your situation? Are you a working mom who people assume loves her career more than her kids? Are you a stay-at-home dad who people assume is lazy? Or maybe you're single and child-free and everyone thinks you must be dying to get married but you're really not? Comment below and share with us.