I don't care if my husband is alone with other women
I've read a lot of articles that say married couples should have a rule that neither of them should ever be alone with a member of the opposite sex. They say it's to protect the marriage from any temptation. But here's the thing, I honestly don't care if my husband is ever alone with another woman.
This doesn't mean that I would be okay with Alex having a close and intimate relationship with another woman - but a quick trip to Starbucks or riding in the car somewhere, it doesn't bother me. I think it's silly to have that rule in place.
If Alex really wanted to cheat on me, he would. No rule about not being alone with a woman is going to stop him. I believe cheating is the result of something not being right in the marriage. If a couple is truly happy and prioritizing their marriage then no third party can come in and tear it apart. But if something isn't right, if someone is unhappy or harboring bitterness in their heart, that's when stuff happens.
Alex and I don't have any secrets, and actually he really doesn't have any lady friends who aren't my friends also. The women he associates with are honorable and trustworthy. I think it would be unfair of me to jealously demand that he never ever be alone with them. Sorry, but if one of our friends is stranded somewhere and needs a ride home, he better give them a ride. I don't see anything wrong with that. I don't like how this rule vilifies women. As if any woman alone with my husband would be unable to control herself.
I think rather than have this blanket rule that always forbids two people of the opposite sex from being alone together, we should use common sense. Does your spouse know where you are and what you're doing? Does the person you're hanging out with say or do inappropriate things? Is the activity you're engaging in inappropriate? Because there's a difference between having a business meeting in someone's office and spending the night together in a hotel.
What do you think, friends? Do you think the rule is a good one to have? Do you agree with me? I would love to hear your thoughts.